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Blog | Sept. 10, 2013

Is Your Boy the Bully? New Book Gets to the Heart of the Question

Project Administrator, Family Online Safety Institute (FOSI)

It’s a hard question to ask yourself. But, is your boy the bully? 

In her new book out today, Masterminds and Wingmen, Rosalind Wiseman gives parents the confidence to ask themselves that question and the tools to have meaningful conversations with their boys – regardless of whether the answer is yes or not. 

Bullying, aggression, and emotional behavior can manifest in boys because they simply don’t have an outlet, and are confined to rigid social constructs that reinforce the notion that boys can’t and shouldn’t talk about their feelings. 

Collaborating with a large team of middle- and high-school-age students, Rosalind created a guide to help parents understand and support their boys as they struggle to overcome day-to-day emotional and environmental challenges. 

Yesterday, the Family Online Safety Institute hosted a conversation with Rosalind to discuss the book and the complexities of parenting boys today. 

“The most common misconceptions about boys are that things don’t matter to them, that their friendships are just about playing and hanging out,” Wiseman said. “But boys have deep relationships. And if they don’t have them, they want them — with their peers and with adults they trust.” 

Masterminds and Wingmen: First Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World is now available on Amazon for purchase. 

Rosalind has also developed a guide specifically for boys titled Managing Douchebags, Recruiting Wingmen, And Attracting Who You Want. The guide is currently available for free download and works to identify and answer questions boys have so they can find emotional balance and develop a positive sense of self.